Sleepless Night..
My attempts to sleep early these few night have failed miserably. I go to bed around 11pm in the hope of just dozing off and waking up early. However, I either end up listening to this CD that I bought on an impulse or read some magazine/book, which just makes things worse by delaying my sleeping time and waking up time. Surprisingly I did none of the above last night. I lay on bed, shut my eyes, hugged my teddy bear tight, and subconsiously started analyzing the so-called 'relationship matters' revolving the people around me..
Starting with the gals.
1) Female A is a weirdo. Her potential partner is rich, quite good-looking, possesss above average intelligence and willing to sacrifice anything for Female A. Female A enjoys the times spent together with Guy. However, Female A refuses to admit that she's dating Guy. Female A thinks that there will be no future between she and Guy. Reason? Female A strictly adheres to her 'no kids' principle. Guy probably can't accept that. So, Female A maintains, "We are just friends.", even though their behaviour together mirrors just like any other dating couple.
2) Female B is rich, pretty and in her own words, "bimbotic". Female B has set her sights on getting married at the age of 25, which leaves her slightly less than 2 years to do so. Problem? Female B has no bf. Female B has been going out on dates set by her colleagues and close friends but to no avail. Recently, she has finally found a target who meets her strict criteria. Another problem though. The target is attached.
3) Female C spends all her time watching dramas and movies revolving a rich, cute guy and a poor girl. She dreams of having a Prince Charming but makes no attempt to take any action in finding. Perhaps she believes in fate: One fine day while waiting at her bus-stop, her Prince Charming would drive past and pick her up in his SLK. The real reason I suspect she is not worried is because her family back home has already arranged a matchmaking session with her Prince Charming.
4) Female D has to seek approval from her Pastor on whether she can go steady with a certain Guy. Needless to say, the Guy has to be a Christian. If the Pastor says No, just too bad for them. According to Female D, "everything is in God's hands".
5) Female E has sold her soul to God. Enough said.
6) Female F knows what she wants, but just can't find her Mr Right. Female F won't commit to a relationship unless she's 90% confident about the future between the two of them. Female F has been contemplating whether to lower her expectations, or to be left on the shelf.
Moving on to the guys.
1) Male A changes gf at every new stage of his life. Male A behaves as if nothing had happened after each breakup or quarrel. His behaviour makes me wonder whether he has ever been serious in each of his failed relationship.
2) Male B seems to be the exact opposite of Male A. He gets upset and sleepless nights after each quarrel with his gf. Despite the vast differences in ideals and lifestyles between he and his gf, he still treasures the relationship a lot and wants a future to hold for them.
3) Male C has set his target but just don't know how to make the first move.
4) Male D has the future layed out for himself and his family. However, he doesn't have a gf. No worries for him though. Calling himself a love expert, he has been 'shopping' around and would only make the move when he has found the 'perfect one' that fits.
5) Male E seems unable to let go of the past. He has many female friends and acts like a total bua ya but being a devoted guy, he's still waiting for his ex. At the meantime, he looks out for chio bus (regardless of race) to satisfy his lust.
6) Male F has a phobia of commitment and marriage. He is satisfied with his current lifestyle. Having a female companion is enough. A marriage is just an unnecessary formality to him.
It's weird that I actually did such a thorough job analyzing the people around me while I was sleeping. The world is actually filled with so many different characters. I guess that's what makes life so interesting.
Starting with the gals.
1) Female A is a weirdo. Her potential partner is rich, quite good-looking, possesss above average intelligence and willing to sacrifice anything for Female A. Female A enjoys the times spent together with Guy. However, Female A refuses to admit that she's dating Guy. Female A thinks that there will be no future between she and Guy. Reason? Female A strictly adheres to her 'no kids' principle. Guy probably can't accept that. So, Female A maintains, "We are just friends.", even though their behaviour together mirrors just like any other dating couple.
2) Female B is rich, pretty and in her own words, "bimbotic". Female B has set her sights on getting married at the age of 25, which leaves her slightly less than 2 years to do so. Problem? Female B has no bf. Female B has been going out on dates set by her colleagues and close friends but to no avail. Recently, she has finally found a target who meets her strict criteria. Another problem though. The target is attached.
3) Female C spends all her time watching dramas and movies revolving a rich, cute guy and a poor girl. She dreams of having a Prince Charming but makes no attempt to take any action in finding. Perhaps she believes in fate: One fine day while waiting at her bus-stop, her Prince Charming would drive past and pick her up in his SLK. The real reason I suspect she is not worried is because her family back home has already arranged a matchmaking session with her Prince Charming.
4) Female D has to seek approval from her Pastor on whether she can go steady with a certain Guy. Needless to say, the Guy has to be a Christian. If the Pastor says No, just too bad for them. According to Female D, "everything is in God's hands".
5) Female E has sold her soul to God. Enough said.
6) Female F knows what she wants, but just can't find her Mr Right. Female F won't commit to a relationship unless she's 90% confident about the future between the two of them. Female F has been contemplating whether to lower her expectations, or to be left on the shelf.
Moving on to the guys.
1) Male A changes gf at every new stage of his life. Male A behaves as if nothing had happened after each breakup or quarrel. His behaviour makes me wonder whether he has ever been serious in each of his failed relationship.
2) Male B seems to be the exact opposite of Male A. He gets upset and sleepless nights after each quarrel with his gf. Despite the vast differences in ideals and lifestyles between he and his gf, he still treasures the relationship a lot and wants a future to hold for them.
3) Male C has set his target but just don't know how to make the first move.
4) Male D has the future layed out for himself and his family. However, he doesn't have a gf. No worries for him though. Calling himself a love expert, he has been 'shopping' around and would only make the move when he has found the 'perfect one' that fits.
5) Male E seems unable to let go of the past. He has many female friends and acts like a total bua ya but being a devoted guy, he's still waiting for his ex. At the meantime, he looks out for chio bus (regardless of race) to satisfy his lust.
6) Male F has a phobia of commitment and marriage. He is satisfied with his current lifestyle. Having a female companion is enough. A marriage is just an unnecessary formality to him.
It's weird that I actually did such a thorough job analyzing the people around me while I was sleeping. The world is actually filled with so many different characters. I guess that's what makes life so interesting.
posted by The Aspiring Chef @ 12:35 PM
1 Comments:
At 10:27 PM,
Graham said…
Relationships are difficult. Through them, we learn much of humanity and of ourselves. On our own we can demand too much arbitrarily of others (picky) or in the presence of someone wonderful we can give up some of ourselves in devotion to certain futility. We know what we know from what friends have experienced and relayed, and the love in the movies, but when in the throes ourselves we know what's right for us (we think).
Each individual must make these decisions and be responsible for their own results. As we inevitably pass or are passed by others, we will eventually need only to answer to ourselves and our actions. And everybody deserves the best.
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