Other Blogs..

Have been stumbling across the blogs of ex-classmates, ex-schoolmates and acquaintances. Being the kaypoh I'm well-known for, I get really intrigued with catching up with their lives. The latest blog that I came across? One of my ex-college mate, who's the girlfriend of my ex-crush. Not surprisingly, they are still together as evident by the numerous photos of them together splattered all over her blog. Not sure if it's a twist of fate, I always bump into them at least once a year since we graduated. When our paths crossed, we merely looked at each other without any acknowledgement, and just walked past each other as if we were mere strangers.

The first few times when I saw them together, which was donkey years ago, my reaction was, "Damn it, so long already still together. Walk so close together some more." That was because he was still very charming and suave. The first time when I caught him alone without the girl was in NUS a couple of years ago. He was a freshman then. His attractiveness seemed to have disappeared all of a sudden. In my eyes, he was reduced to 'one of the year 1 students'. Anyway, he had put on weight and no longer seemed perfect. Perhaps its the extra 2 years of education that I had ahead of him that made him look immature.

Whatever it is, he and his girlfriend had just celebrated their 6th year anniversary together. Of course I'm no longer jealous of them and no longer secretly or openly hoping that they would break up :)

It seems that love cannot be measured by time. I've come across a fair share of relationships of friends and family members that were sustained for many years. The end result was rather similar: break-up. As one grows older, one realises that one's partner should not be just someone whom one enjoys the company of. Encountering the sweetness of romance and enjoying the numerous activities and moments shared together is one matter. Having to live together with him/her and his/her family for the rest of their lives is another.

I've always believed that a couple should have the same ideals and focus in life. A particular ex-classmate of mine had just broken up with her boyfriend of close to eight years. Everyone of us had thought she would be the first amongst us to tie the knot, with the exception of me. Of course I didn't voice out my opinion back then. I've always felt that the gulf in their education and maturity levels would be fatally exposed when they entered the labour force. The higher one's education level, the more one would hope to achieve in life. True enough, now, their different expectations and aims in lives forced my friend to come back to reality. Of course, this is not to say that relationships with people of different education levels would not last. It all boils down to each individual's character and outlook in life. If two people are not moving together towards a certain goal, there's no point in continuing the relationship. Putting an end to it is painful, but it's best done as soon as possible if the future together looks bleak. Rather than waste time on something that won't lead anywhere, moving on seems to be a more sensible option, as what my friend bravely did. I truely admire her courage.

On another matter, after months of waiting, my graduation photos are finally ready for collection. Can't wait too see them :)