Selfish Friend..
Recently, I've been feeling disappointed with the people around me. It's not as if I've very high expectations of them. All I expect of people is responsibility on their part and unselfishness. Since working, many of my blog entries have been written about the irresponsibility of adults and students. These people fail to do their own work properly and hence, they cause inconvenience to the others working below or with them. I get highly irritated when people perform slipshod work and pass it down to me. I end up picking up the mess and wasting my precious time in the process. And I absolutely loathe it when it makes it seem as though I'm the person who did the sloppy piece of work no matter how hard I try to conceal the mistakes. Even after reporting to my boss, I still get upset as I'm a perfectionist and I can't stand having errors littered all over and being so freaking untidy.
The reality that most people are irresponsible has finally sunk in and I'm beginning to get immuned to this kind of thrash in our society. Now, I can't tolerate friends who are downright selfish.
From a few minor matters in the past, I got to realise this particular friend of mine always puts her interests above others. I got thoroughly pissed with her once that I told her off but she thought I was only joking. This time round, I felt that she was really too much. To cut the long story short, she wanted me to help her friend (who knows little English) submit some forms to an organization. Firstly, when she passed me the forms, they were in such a pathetic state that I thought they belonged to the dustbin. Secondly, the documents attached with the forms were all not properly arranged. Thirdly, the forms were so incomplete that I swear even a primary school kid would have noticed it. The worst part was the forms were not even signed! I felt that she should have told her friend about the forms when she first received them from her. I forgive her friend for the incompleteness of the forms as her friend probably doesn't even know what the form is asking for. But my particular friend, after 20 years of English education in Singapore, would surely be able to spot such simple mistakes and the glaring blanks. I feel that as a responsible and unselfish person, if she really wants to help someone, she should do it with her heart. Common sense would tell her that a form which is not even signed will obviously be rejected!
That's not all. When I told her that the organization promptly rejected her forms, she kept asking me "Oh no, then how? Must get her to go down and sign?" This pissed me even more. It was as if she expected everything to be smooth-sailing even with half-filled forms. I informed her that the forms were with me as the organization refused to process incomplete forms. Uptil now, there's no reply from her as to what she wants to do with the forms. A responsible human being would have reacted quickly and arranged for the forms to be signed. But no. All she knew what to say was "Then how?" Does she expect me to post the forms to her friend when she should just send it to the organization itself instead of asking me and getting me disgraced in the process for such incomplete forms? Whatever it is, I bet she must be thinking: "I help my friend pass the forms already, I've done my job. It's not my problem if the organization accepts it or not." Initially when I showed Mr Lim the forms, he was utterly disgusted. He asked me repeatedly whether the person who passed the forms to me was actually my friend and told me not to bother about her. But I thought that I should help her as she's my friend and just try my luck. I guess I should have just heed the advice of Mr Lim.
My initial suspicions about her were confirmed through this incident. I finally got to see the true colours of this friend. All I can say is that I'm thorougly disappointed with her. Uptil now, I'm still quite disgusted with her selfishness and behaviour. I know I'm childish but after this incident, I don't feel like having to have anything to do with her anymore. I already can't tolerate irresponsible and selfish people, what more an irresponsible and selfish friend.
The reality that most people are irresponsible has finally sunk in and I'm beginning to get immuned to this kind of thrash in our society. Now, I can't tolerate friends who are downright selfish.
From a few minor matters in the past, I got to realise this particular friend of mine always puts her interests above others. I got thoroughly pissed with her once that I told her off but she thought I was only joking. This time round, I felt that she was really too much. To cut the long story short, she wanted me to help her friend (who knows little English) submit some forms to an organization. Firstly, when she passed me the forms, they were in such a pathetic state that I thought they belonged to the dustbin. Secondly, the documents attached with the forms were all not properly arranged. Thirdly, the forms were so incomplete that I swear even a primary school kid would have noticed it. The worst part was the forms were not even signed! I felt that she should have told her friend about the forms when she first received them from her. I forgive her friend for the incompleteness of the forms as her friend probably doesn't even know what the form is asking for. But my particular friend, after 20 years of English education in Singapore, would surely be able to spot such simple mistakes and the glaring blanks. I feel that as a responsible and unselfish person, if she really wants to help someone, she should do it with her heart. Common sense would tell her that a form which is not even signed will obviously be rejected!
That's not all. When I told her that the organization promptly rejected her forms, she kept asking me "Oh no, then how? Must get her to go down and sign?" This pissed me even more. It was as if she expected everything to be smooth-sailing even with half-filled forms. I informed her that the forms were with me as the organization refused to process incomplete forms. Uptil now, there's no reply from her as to what she wants to do with the forms. A responsible human being would have reacted quickly and arranged for the forms to be signed. But no. All she knew what to say was "Then how?" Does she expect me to post the forms to her friend when she should just send it to the organization itself instead of asking me and getting me disgraced in the process for such incomplete forms? Whatever it is, I bet she must be thinking: "I help my friend pass the forms already, I've done my job. It's not my problem if the organization accepts it or not." Initially when I showed Mr Lim the forms, he was utterly disgusted. He asked me repeatedly whether the person who passed the forms to me was actually my friend and told me not to bother about her. But I thought that I should help her as she's my friend and just try my luck. I guess I should have just heed the advice of Mr Lim.
My initial suspicions about her were confirmed through this incident. I finally got to see the true colours of this friend. All I can say is that I'm thorougly disappointed with her. Uptil now, I'm still quite disgusted with her selfishness and behaviour. I know I'm childish but after this incident, I don't feel like having to have anything to do with her anymore. I already can't tolerate irresponsible and selfish people, what more an irresponsible and selfish friend.
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